Overcome Grief

When a loved one dies, it can be hard to deal with, but grief doesn’t have to take over your life.

Grief is most often caused by the death of a loved one, but it can also be caused by the loss of money, a home, a job, a relationship (from a divorce or breakup), or even by an illness, physical disability, or getting older. Grief is painful because whatever was lost was very important to the person who is grieving. Once you let go of that attachment and truly accept that things have changed, your emotional pain will stop.

Watch the first video to find out how you can get over the emotional pain of grief. Then, learn how Dr. Waldo Castro’s time at the Miami Hypnosis Center (Goodwin Hypnosis) helped him deal with his grief:

Get Over Your Grief by Changing Your Beliefs

How Hypnosis Helped Dr. Waldo Handle Grief

*Testimonials by former clients of Todd or Gina Goodwin are true and factual. Goodwin Hypnosis, its officers, and personnel, do not imply or claim that these comments represent typical results. Results vary depending on age, gender, lifestyle, motivation, and individual commitment to achieve a desired result. These clients voluntarily offered their feedback and were not compensated in any way. Each comment is the opinion of one person at a specific time and should be considered only in that context.

Frequently Asked Questions

It’s normal, which means that most people go through it, but it’s not necessary or even a given. Grief doesn’t have to last very long if it does happen. Some cultures don’t mourn death, so a lot of grief, especially long-term grief, is based on a cultural belief that is taught and reinforced by society.

The amount of emotional pain you feel when you lose something depends on how emotionally attached you were to it. The more you depend emotionally on someone or something, the more you’ll miss them when they’re gone. If you don’t “need” something, losing it won’t make you feel sad or even like you lost something. Furthermore, if someone you dislike dies, you don’t grieve at all. It’s like an addiction in that you feel emotional cravings when you don’t have what you want. Hypnosis and NLP can help you improve how you think and feel, and, in the process, overcome grief.

No. It’s a sign of emotional dependency or infatuation (an imbalanced emotional state). Even though there is love, that’s not what causes grief. You might feel sad and upset about losing a house, a job, or money, but it’s caused more by your need for those things and being used to having them than by your love for them. Think about the person who died. If he or she loved you, he or she wouldn’t want you to be sad, depressed, or stuck in grief after their death. That’s one reason why grief is mostly about what you lost without your even realizing it. Consider whether celebrating the life of a loved one is a better way to honor them than being sad. Coming to terms with this complicated idea and accepting loss without carrying emotional baggage is an opportunity for personal growth.

Support groups can be helpful for a short time, but the emotional support they give can make it harder to get over the grief. After all, if you got better and left the group, you might lose the support and friendship of the other people in the group. Secondary gain is the idea that you might benefit from being stuck with your problem (or experience a major challenge by solving it). It’s a common condition for people with long-lasting problems, like obesity, grief, depression, PTSD, chronic pain, and addiction. Support groups should be used carefully, because emotional support, including self-pity, can become addicting.

You can try to convince yourself consciously that you’ve accepted it, but the real test is whether you feel and act like you have. If you’re still sad and cry a lot, you have not come to terms with what happened. The loss must be accepted by the subconscious mind (where beliefs, feelings, and habits are stored), or it will continue to fight it. This resistance shows up as grief (or as cravings in the case of addiction).

One of our hypnotists, Gina Goodwin, went through a lot of pain and stress after seeing her mother die from cancer. As a client of the Miami Hypnosis Center (Goodwin Hypnosis), she used hypnosis and NLP to get rid of her grief and traumatic memories. Her experience strengthened her desire to become a professional hypnotist.

Here’s what she says about it: 

“I went to see Todd for grief/acceptance over the death of my mother. She passed away from cancer, and if anyone has ever gone through this with someone they love, they are all too familiar with what I am about to say. I cried almost on a daily basis once she was gone… and realized it had kept up for over 2 years. I was constantly fighting back tears, constantly fighting horrible images and getting flashbacks every single day and night. My nights were restless, and the stress in my life was on overload. I had no energy to do anything because this was draining me. It was starting to affect my job, and my health. The sadness and longing was literally manifesting physically with spasms and headaches, to name a few. I realized I needed help.

Being a holistic person, I was not sure where to turn. I met Todd, and felt so comfortable telling him everything going on. I do not believe I would have spilled my guts and cried like I did to a conventional therapist/psychologist. Not once did I feel like he was judging me, he truly listens and wants to help. My life has completely turned around!! After a few sessions with him, I felt like the world around me was transforming before my eyes, when in reality it was ME who was transforming. Before, I had to fight to keep haunting images OUT of my head, and fighting tears every day for two years… and now, I have to fight to try to even PICTURE those haunting images, let alone cry.

WOW!!! I can finally breathe again!! This has given me a greater understanding to it all. My stress levels have gone down, my eating habits are changing, and I am able to sleep without sleep aids. Most importantly, I am able to remember her as happy and healthy and I am able to finally smile when I think of her now, or whenever I see a picture of her. I cannot thank him enough.” – Gina Goodwin, 2014

Watch Gina describe her powerful transformation through hypnosis:

Take the first step toward recovery

Events that cause grief are often very upsetting or traumatic. If you can relate, you may be able to work with us privately, which is the best and quickest way to get help.